Lenny Distilled

Direct feedback builds strength, avoidance breeds weakness

Leadership → Culture

I will never sugarcoat anything. I'll never say I like something if I don't like something. If I'm in a meeting and someone tells me they don't agree with me, I will tell them I don't agree with them back.

Mihika KapoorVision, conviction, and hype: How to build 0 to 1 inside a company | Mihika Kapoor (Product, Figma)

Clear is kind. Conflict-avoidant, feedback-avoidant cultures degrade the talent bar.

Claire VoBending the universe in your favor
Supporting

If you create a space where you require constructive feedback, it's a lot easier to give feedback.

Keith YandellLeading with empathy | Keith Yandell (DoorDash, Uber)
Supporting

If you have feedback to give someone else, I think you can start by asking, 'Hey, do you have feedback from me?' And kind of taking the feedback first.

Mihika KapoorVision, conviction, and hype: How to build 0 to 1 inside a company | Mihika Kapoor (Product, Figma)
Nuanced

Directness only works if it's two-way. If it is one person being really direct with another person and then the other person being afraid to talk, you will end up in probably a not great relationship.

Mihika KapoorVision, conviction, and hype: How to build 0 to 1 inside a company | Mihika Kapoor (Product, Figma)
With caveats

You have to thank them for it. You have to action. A lot of these companies have these pulse surveys, and they put the results on the screen, and 'We're going to work on it,' and that's the end of it.

Keith YandellLeading with empathy | Keith Yandell (DoorDash, Uber)